In this category, innerbeauty, I often write about how to get more out of life. For example, I once wrote about how to avoid living on autopilot, how to give yourself an energy boost and how to be more positive in life. It overlaps somewhat, but I thought it would be good to elaborate on how you can become more satisfied with your life in a separate post. How do you get out what’s in it? Many people live unsatisfying lifes. You sometimes hear people say: work, eat, sleep, work, eat, sleep, etc. Making money, keeping your head above water, doing things you have to do, but is that life? Because of everything we have to do in life, we forget what life is really about and what makes us happy as human beings. We have to get a diploma, find a job, earn money, pay bills, arrange things, take care of ourselves, but also maintain contacts with friends and family. We have so much to do and it is not always easy. And what is being content anyway? Being content means that you are happy with what you have, that you do not long for more. If you experience the feeling of contentment for a long time, you can say that you are happy. So it is really important that you keep yourself satisfied in life, then you will eventually find long-term happiness.
Don’t let your schedule live you, just decide in the moment what you want to do. I love that. Planning ahead is sometimes necessary, but do we really need to plan all the fun things weeks in advance? How much fun is life when you spontaneously meet someone, spontaneously have dinner together. The spontaneous things in life also ensure, among other things, that life does not become boring and predictable, no room for a rut. If you think one night that you feel like going out to dinner, do it! Go to the movies after work, go on a citytrip for the weekend or paint your wall a fun color. Step out of the well known comfort zone.
What makes you excited?
What makes your heart beat faster? What makes you really happy? What have you always wanted to do? Don’t just think about the big things, but also the small things that are achievable in the short term. This could be reading a book, taking photographs, writing, painting, working out, cooking, climbing, etc. Try to answer these questions for yourself. How many of these things do you do in life? And how often do you do them? If you don’t pay enough attention to your passions, you can quickly lose the joy of life. I always try after long days of study or work to do something fun in the evening, something that relaxes. In this way the emphasis is not only on study or work, but also on something else you did that day. That’s why it’s extra important that you also find passions that don’t take too much time, but give you energy and joy. Besides, people tend to say “I don’t have time for that”, but no, then something is wrong in your way of planning. If you want to make time, then you can get that time from somewhere.
I often hear the familiar statement “I’m too tired in the evening”. Doing nothing can put you in a rut, making you more tired. Try to keep yourself busy, even when you are tired. Passions will give you energy, they make you happy and they make you shine. If you feel more comfortable, your sleep quality will improve, you will be better able to deal with setbacks and you will have a more positive outlook on life. All these effects contribute to a fulfilling life. In difficult times, it is extra important to spend time on passions so that you have distractions. No one gets better from thinking about their problems 24/7. So being tired is no excuse to stop doing the things you love!
In addition to passions, it is also important to have goals that you are working on. Especially goals that are not work or study related, a goal separate from that. For example, you might like to learn to speak a language, design and build furniture, walk a few times a week, meet your daily step goal, go to the gym, try new foods, etc. Again, it’s important not to just set big goals, but rather the small ones. Small goals get you there faster and keep you focused on something in life. Doing something small every day or every week has a great effect, it gives you a strong feeling and therefore more self-confidence, it inspires. Working on big goals is of course also important, and it’s good to think about that too. Ultimately it’s about the whole picture: the present and the future. A good balance between small and big goals will keep you balanced. Want to learn more about how to work on goals? Then be sure to read this post of mine.
Follow your dreams and ideas
This ties in nicely with passions and goals. Sometimes we are afraid to dream, sometimes we are afraid to follow our dreams. Both are a waste! We all have ideas in our heads about what you would like to do, but why don’t we do something with them? It may not be realistic at the moment, but what if it is and you have to put energy into it to make it happen? Follow your dreams and make your ideas a reality. And if it doesn’t work out, then you’ve tried and come up with a plan B. Don’t let things that don’t go exactly as plan demotivate you, but rather motivate you. After all, there are more roads to Rome! And forget your principles sometimes. I will be twenty-nine in a few months and I started a new study a few months ago. So there were comments like “wow, are you still going to study now”. Yes, I am, because that’s what I like and that’s what I want to do. Who cares. There is not one roadmap to happiness, there is not one path that guarantees a happy existence. It’s different for each person. Forget principles, people who live by principles are boring. So. Do what you want, follow your dreams and make your ideas come true!
Think of yourself as a plant
Many plants can handle being watered irregularly, but a plant will do better if this is done consistently. For example, a plant does not need to dry out before it is watered. Make sure that you are also consistent to yourself with taking care of yourself and your life. As many people know about me by now, I like to talk in metaphors. Often someone immediately gets an image of what is meant, and it is also easier to remember.
Finally, I would like to say: nothing comes naturally in life. Life doesn’t suddenly become much more fun. There is no magic potion that suddenly makes all the unpleasant things in life go away. It needs you for that! You will have to work on it yourself. Find a nicer job, go out more often, meet new people or try to maintain current friendships better, and so on. Small changes have big effects. Don’t compare yourself to others, what we see on the outside does not guarantee how someone feels on the inside. Choose the right people around you who inspire you, appreciate you and whom you can trust. Let go of the people who bring negativity (you can read more about this here). Focus on yourself, your happiness, your life.